this rant is inspired by the
cancer channel known as buzzfeed, particularly the ladylike video "ladylike goes 30 days without shaving"
do you shave?
is it a personal choice?
are you sure? are you positive? it's not because you feel pressured by society and the evil patriarchy? you must be lying, as i am so much happier not shaving and giving into the societal pressure to shave. look at how healthy my body hair looks and how much healthier i look by not dedicating so. much. time. to shaving my arms and legs. you should stop shaving too because i know that you really don't want to but you want to please men, amirite? you're beautiful with hair as well and you shouldn't shave.
while that scenario itself is hypothetical, i've run into this type of conversation more than a few times. yes, i shave. yes, it is a personal choice that isn't dictated by the current beauty standards in the country i live in. i shave because i live in a swamp and it gets stupidly hot in the summer time and, since my family is from northern europe, we have a lot of body hair. that makes things much hotter. so i shave to stay cool.
that, and i'm disgusted by body hair, so there is that to factor in.
a majority of the comments on the video were talking about how most of them didn't shave because they're lazy, or because they have a physical condition that prevents them, and that they feel bad for the women who are "pressured" into shaving by their significant other or by their family or what have you. this bothered me (obviously) because i don't shave for anyone but myself. body hair, while "hygienic", looks disgusting. there's no other way around saying that. i am repulsed by an excess of body hair and don't you dare tell me that i shave because i'm conditioned to think that.
when i was younger, before i watched anything that could "condition" me to think about the beauty standards, i hated my arm hair. it was so thick and long- it looked disgusting to me. when my leg hair started growing, i almost cried from how disgusting i thought it looked. i literally counted down the days until my mum finally let me shave and, in high school, i started shaving my arms.
and guess what? i felt so much better after it.
however, that's when the questions started. why do you shave? doesn't that take too much time? don't you know it's actually detrimental to shave? who are you shaving for?
why is it seen as rude to ask someone why they don't shave but it's perfectly fine to hassle someone who does?
this is one of the (
many) problems with third wave feminism. not shaving is seen as a personal choice, yet shaving is seen as a social conditioning that needs to be mocked? that wanting to date someone without body hair is seen as "disgusting misogyny" and "brainwashing" from the evil, evil patriarchy.
i don't give a shit if someone shaves or not, but don't view me as an oddity for not wanting to grow body hair and don't call me a douche bag for wanting to date someone who either has none or maintains their body hair.